One-To-One-Advice

Giving one-to-one advice or mentioning advice that I might have given someone is something I rarely do in my blog because I want my blog to be general and that way enable as many people as possible to benefit from what I publish here.

However this morning I was minding my own business sightseeing on a big red London bus, I am in London for a few days it is nice, but it is so crowded and London is one of the dirtiest, most polluted places I have ever visited oh and the standard of service is pretty poor too, frankly I wouldn’t recommend London as a place to visit.

Still I didn’t come here to moan, I came here to tell you about something that happened this morning on the aforementioned bus which was both flattering and in a way rather sad.

A young man got on the bus at Oxford Street close to a Pedestrian Crossing that seems to be designed to give buses and taxis more than one chance to people crossing Oxford Street, it looked very dangerous indeed. The young man was in his mid twenties I guess and as he passed by me he smiled!

That was nice I thought to myself especially as I was feeling as though I was in the middle of a city where no one smiles ever, a cue that I presume comes from the politicians of the land who all seem to be talking seriously and never smile.

After a while, we had just been whisked rather rapidly around Trafalgar Square I recall, gee buses travel fast in London, the young man approached me and asked me if my name was Abigail and I nodded, he asked if he could sit next to be and then began to tell me about his girlfriend.

I was so disturbed to hear his story that I ended up getting off the bus in a place called Brixton, mmh! is all I will say about that place, I thought the middle of London was dirty until I tried to walk through the trash lined Brixton High Street.

Obviously I can’t mention specifics but the young man said that he and his girlfriend had been living together for a number of years and recently within the last six to eight months and for no apparent reason she had been going out and staying out sometimes over night.

The young man said that he loved his girlfriend and had tried to have one of those chats that we all attempt, the “what is wrong! Is it me!” type of conversation, but his girlfriend had erupted saying that he was ruining her life and all she wanted was freedom and he didn’t give her any.

Well I told him what I thought I would do in that situation, which is give her all of the freedom she is demanding and move out immediately, I don’t know if he will but it would be best.

Please everyone remember that relationships are about sharing, they are not meant to be one sided and no partner is supposed to take advantage of the other, if they do they probably always will and the best thing to do in those circumstances is to leave and find someone who wants to be with you and wants to share a life with you, you deserve to be happy as well as your partner no matter whether you are a man or a woman.

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How Do You Make Your Relationship Work?

It is true to say tat we are all looking for something different from a relationship and that is because we are all so very different that is the complex beauty of the human race.

But there are some things that we should look for in a relationship that are constant and common to all humans of both sexes and they are;

We should always respect our partner and never even consider violence towards one another. It is impossible to add that we should never lose our temper with our partner because it is in our nature. But if you can remember that you might be losing your temper with the wrong person – your partner who is just an innocent bystander. Always try to think before you let your anger out.

If you do this then you will be also doing something that I personally believe is a key to a happy relationship and that is always treat your partner in a way that you would like to be treated.

It goes, almost, without saying that you should chat to your partner, tell them what makes you happy, then what makes you sad and then of course what gets under your skin. You’ll discover that you feel better and your partner will enjoy sharing and of course at a later date the opportunity to do the same to you, to chat and share.

One thing that I have found in the years that I have been around is that not only do relationship flourish when you are sharing they also bloom when you give your partner a little bit of privacy, some quiet time, to do what they want.

That may be a hobby, a walk with the dog or anything and you should always give your partner that space and freedom, yes it is true that we all need different things but there are only a very few humans who want to be completely isolated even if they say they do.

There is so much more to say on this subject and that happily is why I have a blog, but finally for today always remember that there are two people in a relationship and that they both need to be engaged in making the relationship work, if one isn’t pulling his or her weight then he or she needs to be reminded that a relationship is a precious thing and like all precious things it isn’t difficult to break them.